Saying NO to a child doesn't help him learn! So, what are the alternatives

Saying NO to a child doesn't help him learn! So, what are the alternatives
Children are constantly learning new skills and new vocabulary. They are constantly observing, modeling and applying these new learnings in their daily lives. As adults interacting with a child, we often tend to jump in and do for them or correct them by using our famous NO; "No, this is not the way you say it", "No, repeat after me!!", "No, that's wrong! say it again properly please!!"
 
But, did you know that the "NO"s adults use when talking to a child have a negative impact on him especially when he is not succeeding in a task or when he is struggling to master a skill? Let me give you an example; when a child mispronounces a sound, the parents ususally jump in and say: "No, this is not the way you say TRAIN, it's not TAIN, it's TRRRAIN...repeat after me!! 
If you are a person interacting with a child on a daily basis and you want to teach this child a new skill, you don't have to use the NO to make your point clear. Saying NO have a negative impact on the child, it will decrease his motivation level and the desire he has to learn and communicate.
 
So, what can you do when your child does things "wrong" when speaking or learning a skill?
  • instead of saying NO and giving him the right answer, reply by asking a question or showing that you’re surprised with what he just said; For example, when he mistakes green for orange in a game, you can reply by saying "Oh is this really green"? 
  • give the right answer without saying "NO". For example you can say "You brought me the small cup, I asked for the biiiiiig one".
  • Always use facial expressions and gestures, this helps the child understand better.
  • Answer wrong questions in a humouros way. For example, if your child wants to eat a piece of tart but mispronounces a sound and says "cart", you can look at him with a smile on your face and say " you wanna eat a Cart? you must have a very extraordinary tummy." then you say the word correctly and give him the tart.
  • Ask him in a positive way to redo things that he did wrong. For example, if your child, who is in grade 2, is doing a math problem and got a wrong answer, instead of saying "No, that is a wrong answer" you can say "Oh you got X, but I got Y when I did it. What if we redo the problem?" Don;t forget to offer help. 
People tend to learn better if they are immersed in a positive environment and constantly praised for the good things they do. Feeling judged and not up to the expectations of their parents at all the time will demotivate the children and consequently, learning gets affected.
 
Think positively and act positively to make learning enjoyable.